So, what is Asexuality? I’ll start by saying that asexuality isn’t a sexual orientation at all, it’s a description. Simply put, an asexual person experiences no sexual attraction towards others and thus has no desire or interest in having sexual relations with other people. There are, however, many other sexual orientations on the asexual spectrum (check out Asexual Dictionary to learn about them!) but what they all share in common is the absence of sexual desire. In many ways, this makes them even more diverse than the other sexual orientations.
what is Asexuality?
People who are asexual don’t view sex as a physical act. Because they believe sex is a purely emotional and spiritual endeavor, they can become deeply invested in a relationship and have deep, meaningful and long-lasting feelings for their partner, but they have no interest in experiencing orgasmic pleasure. What’s more, for asexual people, the idea of sex can mean that they feel their lives are empty until it’s completed – a point some asexual people find very disturbing.
The word asexual itself brings to mind an image of a cross-dressing man, but in fact it comes from the German word swollen, which means “to play the fool.” This image came into being when Alfred Lord Tennyson wrote a letter to his friend James Blunt, describing how he felt on one occasion: “Awe, awe, astonishment! Something awful was passing off like a green thread, like a thread stuck into a woolen breast; I felt that some lost soul in the green valley had gathered it up, that the thread had tied itself to my breast, that I waded forward hand in hand to take it out… ” In this letter, Lord Tennyson describes his feelings about a sexual encounter with another person, a fact which led him to conclude that there is something wrong with human sexuality.
Many people wonder what exactly is asexuality. The answer varies depending on who you ask. Some asexuals do not feel a sexual desire for anyone or anything at all, while others crave the erotic experience of sex for personal fulfillment. While some aces can fall asleep whenever arousal occurs, others cannot stay awake long enough to enjoy the feeling of arousal. In addition, asexual can experience the loss of interest in the sexual act, leading to complete asexuality. While all aces lack a sexual desire, most asexuals only lose interest after a very short time, and some asexuals remain asexual throughout a long lifetime.
So, what is asexuality? It’s a sexual preference, whether it’s toward a single person a group of people, or an object of desire. Some asexuals may even express a desire for an object of affection, but don’t act on it, either because they feel an emotional attachment to someone or because they are embarrassed by their lack of interest in sexual activity. And even asexual can fall in love, fall in lust, or experience attraction toward someone. They just aren’t having any ‘sexual desires.’
Most often, asexual people fall into one of several orientations. Asexuals can be cross-orientated, which means they have romantic and sexual interests, or they can be quadri-orientated, which means they have a single preferred sexual orientation and no interest in exploring other orientations. Some asexuals are bisexual, meaning they have a desire for both men and women, while others are a homosexual, or a hetero-gay. The majority of asexuals fall somewhere between these two categories – somewhere in between asexuality and celibacy.
A demisexual has a strong emotional connection to another person but lacks the sexual desire to actually act on those feelings. Because a demisexual isn’t actively seeking a relationship, he isn’t likely to develop a deep, meaningful relationship with another person. A new bisexual can still experience sexual attraction, though, and may do so in an intensely platonic way. If you’re a humiliate and you start thinking about having a relationship with another person, be aware that you might not be ready for that kind of commitment. Take some time before making the decision to become sexually involved with another person.
Aromantics are a special type of asexual. Aromantic asexuals frequently experience a strong romantic bond with another person, but don’t have active sexual attractions to them. While aromantics tend to fall somewhere between asexual, they experience a strong romantic longing that sometimes takes the form of a sexual attraction rather than a physical one. Aromantic asexual can be a very unique group, and they often carry a particularly interesting history that is seldom explored in terms of a general sexual dimorphism. In fact, aromantics and asexuals share a lot in terms of their sexuality and their sexual development. image credit sky news